Contrary to popular belief men and women lie basically at the same rate. It’s just that males and females do it for different reasons and at different points. It doesn’t matter who we are or even where we are from. Everybody does it but the question though is if it is really necessary to do so? Is it?
It has been said that Not all lies are harmful. Sometimes lying is the best approach for protecting privacy and ourselves and others from malice, some researchers say. Some deception, such as boasting and lies in the name of tact and politeness, can be classified as less than serious. But bald-faced lies (whether they involve leaving out the truth or putting in something false), are harmful, as they corrode trust and intimacy—the glue of society.
Let us be clear however that lying for the Christian is wrong!
“ There are six things that the Lord hates, seven that are an abomination to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked plans, feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies, and one who sows discord among brothers” Proverbs 6:16-19
It, therefore, stands to reason that lying is not a must. Let us not be unrealistic and self-righteous, however. Would you tell your friend who is not very bright that he is if he asked you? If your answer was yes, why did you do it? Was it because you wanted to motivate him or her or you wanted to build his self-esteem? Did you have to lie to him or her? These are what scientists call “prosocial lies”—falsehoods told for someone else’s benefit, as opposed to “antisocial lies” that are told strictly for your gain.
You could have told him the truth in such a way that it does not hurt him. You could have said. People learn at different rates and you learn a bit slower than others so you will need more time.
