Could my boyfriend be really controlling me?

So you realize that you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend who is controlling. They want to tell you what you should be wearing, the food you should be eating, when you should sleep or eat, the friends you should keep and even how you should spend your own money.

Are you just going to sit there and take it or are you going to do something about it? Yes she is beautiful or he is a hunk and your friends marvel at the idea that you could get someone like that in your life. Wow, you feel honored but at home or school, you are dying because of this controlling behavior. Does the answer now lie in you cheating and keeping up appearances because of the status the person gives you? Do you resort to anger and start becoming verbally abusive to gain some control?

This is an issue that affects relationships all over and based upon how it is dealt with it could mean a breakup, continuous fights or a chance to be someone different. If it was true love that brought you together and not just the idea that you have found someone who you can control then you are in a better position to fix this problem.

Have a sit-down. Let your partner know how you are feeling about his or her behavior and let him or her know that if it continues what your plans are going to be. Of course, I expect it to be to leave because a relationship like this one can become abusive. Let your controlling partner know that you are uncomfortable with this type of relationship and that he may need some level of counseling. If he or she agrees to this and the agreement is upheld then the relationship might just find itself on sturdy grounds. If however, things begin to escalate and even though you may feel that you love him or her it is now time to go. A controlling relationship is abusive. You have tried to correct it but your partner has no plan to change it so you should not live it. Too many times these relationships lead to death or someone becoming hospitalized.

Let us understand that we all have our lives to live and we cannot allow anyone to live it for us. We are young adults, not children. We compromise because of our relationships but we are not controlled.