Sandra is my girlfriend and I love this girl but I can’t help it if I am considered handsome. I do flirt occasionally but not to the point where it gets out of hand. I am a fun person and people usually love my personality but I just cannot take this anymore. This girl will argue, curse or even fight for weeks if she sees me talking too closely with another woman.
Are you having a situation like this above? If so as a male this can be a very toxic relationship for you? How do you handle it? Here are some reasons as to why and some solutions. See if they help.
Does she feel like the queen? – Sometimes jealousy may arise because your girlfriend might just not feel as special as she would want to be. Have you been treating her like a queen? When a woman is being treated like a queen it adds to her security and therefore she is assured that no woman can take her place. Therefore if it’s a case where she is not feeling special then you need to start making her feel like this position of the girlfriend is hers and nobody can take it. Wine and dine her, play with her, cook for her, help her to clean the house, dress her and bathe her if she will allow it. The point makes her feel like she is the one and only queen. Make her feel special.
Don’t get angry, stay calm. – If she gets angry you must not. You must
stay calm because if you don’t she will assume that you are hiding something. So if she starts to act up simply stay calm and cool so that the situation won’t escalate. Calm her down to the point where she can have a decent conversation. You being calm will let her feel that she is just getting angry over nothing.
What are her reasons for feeling threatened? – You would never know from a male perspective what would make your girlfriend get upset so you need to know. After she has calmed down quietly ask her why is
she so angry? Of course, the reasons can be from one to one thousand because women can be pretty complicated. It could have been the other girl’s smile, walk, dress, talk or your smile, walk or mannerism. The point is once you know what it is you can put a stop to it to relieve her fears. Of course, she may have another reason at a later date but you would have fixed this one and it could be a situation that when she sees this one fixed the other might not bother her that much.
Let her meet your friends – Sandra might just feel upset because you are talking to a beautiful girl and she has no clue who she is. It could be a simple thing as to introduce her to your friend and there would be no arguments. It could have been a colleague’s wife. The fact that she is in the know will just put her mind at ease and she would be good to go.
Past Experiences – Past experiences can sometimes trigger a jealous rage and again it would be best if you can sit calmly and talk about it. Once the trigger is known then as a man you would be able to control this behaviour to stop it from happening again.
These are just a few tips that may just help you and your partner move away from jealous rages when there are absolutely no reasons for them. It could also lend itself to a better marriage or partnership as you move forward in your relationship.