Am I in this for the children? Or am I in this for the money?  Is love here or is this just a drama presentation?

These are questions that you may find yourself asking and when you do or if you do you need to make sure that you get answers as this could prove to be an unhealthy relationship.

Many times you may have heard about people being together for over twenty years and then suddenly there is a bitter divorce especially when the children leave.  Are you in a position where you are wondering if your relationship has meaning?

On what basis was your relationship founded or formalized? If a relationship comes to the fore because of a night of passion then it means that it will have to get more roots so that it can stay strong. Sex is just an important part of a relationship but because its good it does not mean that your relationship is meaningful.

Furthermore, if you are in a relationship because the children are there and you are waiting for them to grow up then you are simply hurting yourself. It’s the same thing when you are together because a child came into play because of pregnancy. A child should never be the basis on which you are in a relationship that makes you unhappy.  Being unhappy in a relationship makes it meaningless.

A meaningful relationship usually has its beginning in friendship so trust is a must. This is where you talk about anything and everything. This is a relationship where you laugh at each other’s jokes and cry with each other in sad times. A relationship like this fosters you praying for each other should the need arise or even if you are just a praying person. 

A meaningful relationship sees you spending time with each other but you might not even be talking but the company is just enough. There are times when as a couple you may play together, this creates memories and it is etched in your mind. A meaningful relationship sees you angry at each other but making sure that you are both okay by looking through the corner of your eyes.

This type of relationship lends itself to dreams and the creation of a future together not anger and pain. Such a relationship can suffer heartbreaks and be mended because it has strong roots.  If you should have a relationship such as this then you do have a meaningful relationship.  If you do not then foster such a relationship.  It is possible and can be started as long as both parties are willing. In this time a meaningful relationship is what makes life worth living and everyone should have this. We all deserve to be happy.